You experience what you believe in. You only need to adjust your inner feelings, keep your self-esteem and confidence and above all, have Faith and true belief in your Creator - in Allah. It is all in your mind: the power of your thoughts generates your sentiments upon which your reactions will depend. Every great action started with just an idea, a mere thought or an opinion that came into awareness to result in effective changes in peoples lives. Our belief generates a tremendous power, a driving force that achieves great results andd actualizes our visions.
If you anticipate abundance and prosperity, benefaction will follow, but if your thoughts are gloomy and pessimistic, evil will follow. Allah (swt) says in hadeeth qudsi: **I am as my servant thinks I am, and I am with him if he calls Me .....**
Dr.Albert Ellis outlined an 'ABC' system to help people adjust their state of mind
Do not accept failure, it is only up to you to turn your failure into success by always trying one more time. It is not what happens that matters, but how you choose to respond it. learn from your experience and have total belief in your abilities and potential.
To create change in our lives, we have to start wrking on our sense of self-worth, inner spirituality and sefl-awareness. Allah teaches us this in the Qur'an:
4) LIVE IN THE MOMENT
Someone rightly said :
Past is history
By the same token, we cannot control the future. However confident you are, whatever resources you have, you can never predict the next moment. We do not even own a single breath, so why waste the time and energy worrying?
French verses by Victor Hugo:
We are born wishing for death
We grow up regretting the loss of childhood where the heart is as pure as gold.
We grow old regretting the loss of our happy , healthy youth
And we die regretting growing old, and life itself.
Enjoy the moment for each has its own taste and its own beauty.
5) APPLY DETACHMENT
Detachment simply means that you enjoy your blessings and belongings, appreciate all the gifts constantly appearing in your ife but do not get too attached to them.
Once the caliph Haroon Rasheed asked a wise man for advice. The man looked at the glass of water in the caliph's hand and said, "If you are denied this sip of water, will you give away your entire kingdom to have it?"
The caliph nodded.
The wise man continued, "And if after drinkig it, it was withheld inside your body, would you give your entire kingdom to get it out?"
Again the caliph answered in the affirmative.
The wise man concluded, "So what is the value of a kingdom that is not worth a sip of water or even a drop of urine."
The glorious Quran teaches us the meaning of detachment in many verses:
The most common attachment in ones's life is to WEALTH.Having money is a great bliss from Allah, and working hard to get money is an absolutely normal part of ur life. whats not normal is to let this money control us. Allah says in the Qur'an:
-Surah Taha (20:131)
Another attachment is the attachment to our own LOOKS, the belief that this physical body is what you are all about. The Qur'an teaches us that this body is only a temporary packaging, the most important of a person is one's soul.
Love is the only feeling that can bring peace back into our lives, the only sentiment that can unite our efforts and combine our hearts, yet we can hardly find it in our present existence.
There are two kinds of love: METAPHORICAL LOVE; which is transient love related to the material world and the bodily life; and
DIVINE LOVE, the love of Allah- this is the real, eternal and infinite love.
Allah says in His Holy Book:
7) KEEP HOPE AND BE OPTIMISTIC
The degree of hope and optimism one has depends on one's level of faith. Disasters and tragic events only increase a believer's faith and submission to Allah. They feel an inner peace and are thankful even for difficult situations (seeing them as tests of their faith and patience) and supplicate for Allah's help and guidance.
During the time of Prophet(saws), it was related that a woman once cut her finger with a knife, whereupon she smiled with relief. Her servant was beside her and was astonished at her reaction; the woman told her: "When I visualized the reward for my patience, i forgot my pain."
8) BE RESPONSIBLE
Do not blame others for your own mistakes: stop looking for answers outside yourself. Look within you, you will find the right answers. Acknowledge that you are responbsible for what you choose to feel or think and that you are solely responsible for the choices in your life, so you cannot make excuses and blame others for the choices you have made. Develop a positive, self-afirming personality, believe in yourself. Do not be over confident.
Allah says in the Quran:
Each and every person has to have a purpose for his or her life: an objective that prevents one's actions from being barren and meaningless. If you do not give it true meaning, life is a total waste.
Worshipping does not only mean praying and fasting, every action in a true muslim's life is considered an act of worship. It is right intention and sincerity that turn a mere physical or social ritual into an act of worship and obedience to Allah.
When we think of someone powerful, we think imagine them to be dominant and controlling, but this is not true power. our power lies deep within our souls; it is reflected in each action, movement and decision. it radiates love, compassion and understanding; it illuminates our surroundings and our world. Being powerful means overcoming our fears and self-doubts, exploring new challenges and fulfilling our duties and responsibilities.
TO BOOST SELF- ESTEEM, TRY THE FOLLOWING STEPS:
11)FORGIVE AND FORGET
When we ar hurt, insulted or faced with injustice, we have two options to deal with our feelings:either to forgive and forget or to hate, harbor grudge and live to seek revenge.
Lots of people refuse to forgive, thinking it a sign of weakness: they think that by forgiving they are surrendering to their offenders.On the contrary, by forgiving you cease to be the victim of hatred and anger and you triumph over your own evil. Now comes the most important question:
Allah swt says:
Some helpful hints :
12)DO NOT GET ANGRY
Anger, like stress and worry, intoxicates your body; it pulls you into a never-ending vicious cycle of unhappiness and rage, which in turn depletes your energy and leave syou devastated and depressed. It is important to realise that anger does not resolve anything.
**~~A man came to the Prophet(saws) and asked him for advice : the Prophet(saws) replied, repeating several times: "DO NOT GET ANGRY"~~**
13)DO NOT WORRY
Imam Dhahabi wrote: "Whoever worries too much sickens his body." The solution for worry and stress is taught to us repeatedly in the Qur'an and the Sunnah. Allah teaches us that fearing nothing and no one but Allah and detaching oneself from materialistic, wordlt thoughts will free your mind by allowing you to remember that nothing in this life can last forever, that what may seem to you today to be an unsolvable problem will soon pass and fade away.
Allah says in the Qur'an:
Sometimes the little inconveniences and obstacles are Allah's lessons to give us strength and wisdom. Calamities and afflictions are part of our big life test; contained within them are valuable guidance and wisdom. Sickness and loss are favors from Allah that wipe away our sins, so that we revert to Him with a pure, loving heart. Sometimes, during our sorrows and frustrations, we mistakenly think that our prayers are not answered; we assume that we have nothing. No, think again: we have it all.
Allah says in the Qur'an:
-Surah Muminoon 23:88
‘Umar ibn al Khattab once wrote to Abu moosa Ash’ari saying: “Observe patience. Know that patience is of two kinds; one is better than the other. It is good to have patience in disasters, but it is even better to keep yourself away from unlawful things. And know that patience is the gist of faith and this is because the fear of Allah is the best religious act and this is gained by patience.”
** The Prophet (SAW)once told his companions: << A man went to a vst field with a cmel loaded with food and fuel. He fell asleep, and when he awoke, he did not find his camel. He began to search for it, running to and fro, and after the sun and his hunger had exhausted him, he said, "I will go to my former place to sleep such a sleep that it may cause my death." Then, he placed his head upon his hands and slept there waiting his death. When he woke, he found his camel standing before him with the food and water. His joy then knew no bounds. Allah becomes more pleased with the repentance of a believer than this man's joy.>> **
It is necessary for everyone to return to Allah, this is the way for our salvation.